Recently I have found myself in several conversations about marriage and how does a Christian remain faithful and still consider divorce. I have talked to people through the years that run the gambit on this issue. I have spent time with those folks and walked them through the scripture and spent time in prayer with them, but ultimately there are gaps that exists because of their marriage relationship or the lack of understanding of a biblical marriage.
Ya see God is the bridegroom and therefore there are some things that come with that relationship.
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the Good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior. 1 Peter 3:1-2 NLT
So if Peter was directing people to accept the authority of your husband then his expectation that people would flourish because of their obedience to their husband. You’ll notice that he makes sure to mention those that refuse to accept the Good News. The gospel is living, breathing and active among everyone but when we decide to “cheat on God”, or become adulterous in that relationship we leave a place for division to set in.
So the age old question comes. Can I be a believer and get a divorce? I know that God hates divorce and I know that he intended for a marriage to be a lifetime endeavor. Well God also gave some reason why one would be able to get divorced, (not required). God designed marriage to make us Holy. He designed it to glorify Him and not to add to our human joy. When those directives are not thought of or considered at that point of matrimony then you have to consider again God’s directive for a divorce.
And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery—unless his wife has been unfaithful. Matthew 19:9
In the case of the New Living Translation of the scripture I submit that Jesus may have very well been speaking to the unfaithfulness of people in general and the idolatry that people in a difficult marriage engage in. If in fact idolatry exists in a marriage and the love of the world has consumed one or both of the parties then the question is answered. Is divorce allowed for Christians? If you cheat on God, then there is already a separation, maybe you can get out and begin restoration in the name of Jesus. Remember the gospel is true and applies to all situations. Jesus already paid the price so revel in that most of all and know that God is still in charge.